Last night, we were at a friend’s house watching the opening ceremony of the Olympics. The usual group of suspects. As we were watching the parade of nations, we happened to keep noticing people in the march that didn’t look like athletes. They typically were older, not as an in shape as an Olympic athlete would be. One of my girlfriends had said, “Who are these people?” But her commentary didn’t stop there.
She went on to say she didn’t know fat people could participate in the Olympics. Then she looked right at me and said, “Robin, who knew?!? Someone should have told us that you could be fat and be in the Olympics! We may have been Olympians.”
Fuck you. Fuck you so much. I wanted to cry at her comment but somehow managed not to. I was, however, stunned enough, not to utter a single reply in return. I simply stared at her in disbelief that those words had just come out of her mouth.
Why do girls have to make such mean comments to each other? Admittedly, I know that I am overweight, but for fuck’s sake, do you have to straight out call me fat to my face? And in front of a big group of people? Hearing those words really stung.
I have struggled with my weight for my entire adult life. I don’t need someone to remind me that I’m overweight. I don’t need someone to put me down. I’ve had a lifetime of dealing with family that have put me down and made fun of me for my weight. I don’t want or need to be “included” in someone’s insults or putdowns because they don’t feel good about themselves. Hell, most days I don’t feel that great about myself, but I sure as shit don’t go around calling myself fat. That helps nothing and no one. Ugh, I’m still so upset about it today that I could cry again.
I don’t believe she was trying to be intentionally malicious. I really don’t. I do think she was trying to do a whole sister solidarity thing by lumping us together in the fat girl camp, but what she doesn’t realize is that she lost a friend last night.
And one last time, I want to say to her (if only in my head) , “Fuck you for hurting my feelings.”